Feeling angry now and then is a completely normal part of our lives. Anger is usually a result of feeling frustrated, insulted, deceived or even under attack. Anger is a natural reaction that passes quickly for many people but in some instances, however, it can become a diﬃcult emotion to control.
Failing to manage anger effectively can lead to mental and physical health problems. You may ﬁnd your anger management issues are affecting your relationships, your work or even your self-esteem.
When does anger become a problem?
Anger can be a useful emotion that triggers a physical reaction in the body. This reaction is called 'ﬁght or ﬂight' and it normally happens when we are stressed or threatened. Adrenaline is pumped around the body, making you feel tense and ready to 'ﬁght' the threat, or ﬂee.
The problem here is that ﬁghting or running away isn't usually an appropriate option. This can make it diﬃcult for us to express anger, and this is where some people develop a problem. When you arent able to express your anger, you may bottle it up. This can then cause angry outbursts at inappropriate times. It may also make you feel angrier in general, leading you to react more aggressively in other situations.
If your anger is not dealt with correctly, it can lead to:
outward aggression and violence (for example, hitting/throwing things, shouting, being threatening towards others)
inward aggression (for example, speaking to yourself badly, denying yourself basic needs, self-harming)
non-violent or passive aggression (for example, not talking to people, doing things poorly on purpose, being sarcastic)
These ways of dealing with anger may help you feel better in the moment but, in the long-term, they will hurt your relationship with yourself and others.
There are man effects of anger, it can manifest in many ways, both physically and mentally. Here are some of the ways you might notice anger affecting you:
tight feeling in the chest
feeling unable to relax
It can be helpful for you to note the way anger affects you so you can recognise your red ﬂags. Gaining awareness of this and your triggers is the ﬁrst step to managing your anger.
Everyone has their own anger triggers and it could be that you feel you are being treated unfairly, or you may simply be frustrated. For many people, a sense of powerlessness can lead to frustration and anger.
To understand why you are angry, it can be helpful to look at your past experiences. Some people's backgrounds and upbringing can inﬂuence how they cope with anger. It may be that your parents were overly angry and violent when you were younger, so you were brought up to believe this behaviour is normal.
Alternatively, you may have grown up seeing anger as a scary emotion. This can make you feel frightened or unable to express it. Whatever the circumstance may be, understanding the root of your anger is an important step in anger manageﬁculties. All of these anger triggers can be readily helped using hypnotherapeutic strategies.
Do I need help with anger management?
Recognising that you have a problem with anger management can be diﬃcult. You may think being angry is just the way you are, or you may not recognise your symptoms as anger related.
Hypnotherapy is an increasingly popular therapy option for those looking to change their behaviour. Anger management hypnotherapy, in particular, can help establish the underlying source of anger before changing unhelpful thought patterns.
I can help you manage your anger problems in several ways by establishing the root cause of your anger.
As previously mentioned, anger management problems often stem from past experiences. These experiences can shape your behaviour and belief system. So, while you may think another person or situation is causing your anger, it may well come from yourself. Once this is understood, I can begin work on changing this.
Using hypnotherapy and a variety of techniques, I can help you change your reaction to anger
triggers. Instead of feeling overwhelmed and angry, you should feel calmer and more relaxed. Feeling calmer in stressful situations helps you to think more clearly so you can react in a more appropriate way.
Anger management hypnotherapy can also help with some of the symptoms of anger. For example, if you are suffering from anxiety, stress or depression, hypnotherapy can be helpful.
The number of anger management hypnotherapy sessions you'll need will depend on your individual circumstances. Most clients need on average 4 to 6 sessions for maximum beneﬁt. The cost per session for this is £60.